Author Chavis D. Walker: Self-Accepted and Refined For Purpose
The word refined can take on several meanings when it comes to life and living. In the pursuit of more refined life, it is important to be honest with oneself. This can be difficult, as we can quickly fall into old patterns of thinking and behavior that no longer serve us. However, by taking the time to reflect on our lives and what we want to achieve, we can begin to identify those areas where change is needed. This was the life and living of Chavis D. Walker, author of Refined: A Guide To Accept And Release The Things That No Longer Serve You.
Born and raised in Atlanta, Georgia, Chavis became a wife and mother at the age of 17. This changed the psyche of an ambitious young woman who was determined to live a different narrative. Often recognized as a rebel, she never desired to keep up with others and what they were doing. At least, that is what she allowed to appear on the surface. Deep down, she cared how others felt (and felt some of it to her core). She continued overcompensating in areas of success, even if she had to lie or hurt others. She knew she had to change that to get to what she felt would lead her to her purpose.
Chavis took concrete steps to strip herself of old ways, negative thinking, and behaviors that did not complement fruitful and abundant living. and embraced new, more positive thoughts and habits. In doing, she opened herself up to a more refined way of living – one that is more in line with God’s unconditional love for her and would ultimately become her testimony.
I was able to catch up with Chavis, and she shared about her recently published book and the connection of it to her healing. You will be both inspired and moved to let go of your own pain.
Hi, Chavis. Thank you for taking the time to chat with me. Can you share a little about your back story?
I am the first to graduate college amongst my generation of cousins – if that’s a thing. I have always desired to be an entrepreneur. I was introduced to the entrepreneur world by my cousin Trammel. He owned multiple businesses and had multiple streams of income. He allowed me to attend many meetings with him, and I admired how he navigated the room and had full control over the decisions being made for the businesses. His ability to think quickly and logically was magical. I knew that it was in me; I knew that it was my destiny. I have recently established my non-profit, The Synergy House Inc., which will be a multi-purpose training facility to offer free services and provide resources for those that need a fresh start.
How many books have you written? What is the most surprising thing you discovered while writing your book(s)?
Like everyone else, I have navigated the turbulence in life, which has been very challenging. Whenever I went through something, I was too embarrassed to share the rawness of the situation and would choose to suffer in silence. The feeling of being alone and misjudged can be disastrous to the spirit of anyone. Making it to the other side of suffering and discovering I was not the only one that has gone through something encouraged me to encourage others to seek help. I quickly realized that advising someone to seek help was just not enough. I began pondering the things I learned during my self-healing journey and became inspired. My strength and tenacity reflected courage, honesty, and humility, and it was a process. It did not happen overnight. I also had to learn forgiveness, which was an even longer process. I quickly accepted that my journey was not just for me; it needed to be shared with other troubled souls that don’t know where to begin. What I have learned can be a game changer and save so many others—being grounded in my why showed me the way. Refined was written and released with the intent to help others heal, just as I have.
What is the significance of the title?
Refined means impurities or unwanted elements having been removed by processing. This is exactly what it means to be stripped of old ways, negative thinking, and behaviors that do not complement fruitful and abundant living. Releasing those things that do not serve us is what has to happen. Accepting the truth about it all is equally as important as the release. We have to accept that there is something wrong in order to release. We must be able to identify the “what” before anything can happen. A process must occur to identify and take steps to complete and accomplish the task. The title is exactly what the book is about.
What do you hope your readers take away from this book?
I pray those that don’t know where to start in making changes by moving forward and letting go of the pain and traumatic experiences that have plagued them for so long can digest every word written and take charge in their healing journey. I pray that the self-reflection that is attached to negative narratives that were created and internalized is removed and replaced with positive gestures of love, grace, kindness, and hope. Most importantly, the reader experiences God’s, unconditional love. I pray that practicing gratitude becomes the new norm and that self-love becomes the most important priority.
Can you share something about the book that isn’t in the blurb?
Refined is my very first and only release. While writing and articulating my thoughts, I wanted to create a tone. I also wanted to create a flow for the reader. I discovered my personality and how I come across to others. I was able to see why there are people that love me and people that may find me difficult to get along with. I am intentional about being a reflection of love, and love corrects. The delivery must also be tactful and not harmful. I learned through my writing that despite how you deliver a message, some aren’t ready to receive it, but this should not prevent me from always attempting to do my best and be ok with any outcome. I discovered that I was loving, graceful, and direct.
How can people connect with you, find your books, etc.?
You can find me through my website @ www. thecoachofcourage.com to learn more about the author and purchase books; if you are interested in taking my accountability courses, you can sign up at the website www.thesynergyhouse.com.