WE Empower Magazine Presents..Dear Mom Series (Mother’s We’ve Lost) With Jakia Durham Kelly
Jakia Durham Kelly is an Online Business Manager and owner of JVAN Services, an Online-Based Business, a mother, and a wife. She is passionate about helping other small business owners structure the back end/operations of their business to prevent burnout and generate more revenue. Jakia is also a Notary Public and Paralegal with experience in Immigration Law. Jakia spends her free time spending time with her family of 3 (soon to be 4), practicing doing nails, reading, and listening to podcasts.
WE Empower Magazine Presents..Dear Mom Series (Mother’s We’ve Lost) With Jakia Durham Kelly. Dedicated to Jakia’s mother, Linda Stroud (2/17/1964 -7/28/2001)- A beloved mother, daughter, sister, and friend. She was a veteran of the US Air Force, she loved to read, travel, dance, and spend time with her loved ones. Linda died at the age of 36, leaving Jakia (her only living child) behind at the age of 10. Although Linda is no longer with us in the physical world, Linda’s personality, bright smile, and kind manner still lives in the hearts of her all of her loved ones.
First, I’m not even sure how to begin this letter, because I lost you as a child at a young age, and as an adult now, I find it hard to connect with that part of me, because I buried it away when I lost you, but I will do my best. Our time together on this Earth was short-lived, but I still remember the exact way that you used to smell, your favorite perfume, how soft your hair was, and how soft and kind your voice was to me.
I remember you used to read to me every night before bed, “The Ugly Duckling” was my favorite, but there were more you read to me. As an adult now, I understand just how important reading to my own children is, and I try to do it as gracefully as you did. I find a lot of you inside myself these days and all I can do is chuckle because I’m sure you’re up in heaven cheering me on.
The times we spent together felt like dreams, they’re embedded in my mind and I pray that I remember them for the rest of my life. You taught me so much; how to stand up for myself, how to love my blackness, how to connect with my community, and how to look good while doing it, and I am determined to instill the same into my family, to be passed down for generations.
I never got the chance to tell you how proud I was and still am of you for being so brave and strong during your last couple of months here. You handled each and every obstacle that came your way like a boss, with a smile on your face each step of the way. To this day, that is the most admirable thing I’ve ever seen anyone do. I didn’t know just how bad it was for you, and you made sure I never had to feel less than because of it. Now that I have children of my own, I understand the love of a mother that much more, because I watched you.
As the years go by, I forget the feeling of that strong bond we once shared, but every now and then it creeps on me and smothers me like a big warm hug. I wish I could see you one last time, to tell you all about my accomplishments, lessons I’ve learned, and things I’ve experienced, just by keeping you in my heart, mind, and spirit.
I know you always wanted a son, and I’ve had 3 for you, I’m sure you’re up there with my second son whom I never got the chance to meet, and I hope the two of you are enjoying each other. I wish you could meet your two-year-old grandson and your new grandson who will be born in late August this year, I’m sure the two of them together would keep you on your toes as they are doing with me now.
Although I’m sure you’re here in spirit with us, seeing you in the physical form would work wonders for me, but that’s okay, I’ve accepted the fact that God needed you more, and I pray that Heaven is exactly what we always talked about it would be. I hope that you and Ashlee are together again, holding hands, playing together, and singing with your pretend mics, like how we used to.
Thanks for being my SHE-RO in the physical form and the spiritual form, thank you for guiding me to be all of who I am now and who I will be in the future, and thank you for loving me the way you did. I love you, and I hope to see you again in heaven or in the next lifetime.
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