Redefining Grief With Certified Grief Coach Herdyne Mercier
Herdyne Mercier is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified Grief Coach, retreat facilitator, and transformational speaker. She is also the host of the “Redefining Grief” podcast. Herdyne’s life calling is to create non-judgmental spaces for broken hearts to heal and purposeful living restored.
Alongside her husband and best friend, Dr. Jameson Mercier, they own and operate Mercier Wellness and Consulting. They use their expertise and experience to help individuals, couples, and families deal with the heartbreak and unresolved grief that lead to unhealthy coping skills.
We Empower Magazine got an exclusive interview with Herdyne.
Tammy Reese: For those who may not know, who is Herdyne Mercier?
Herdyne Mercier: I am the Host of Redefining Grief Podcast. I am also known as The Chief Grief Crusader, your Certified Grief Coach, and Licensed Clinical Social Worker. “I believe that happiness and sadness can co-exist. It is only when we learned to embrace both emotions that living a life full of emotional abundance and balance can be attainable.” My teaching philosophy is when you create non-judgmental spaces for broken hearts to be SEEN, HEARD, and VALIDATED you help grievers heal so a life of emotional well-being is possible.
I teach the total opposite of what society teaches about emotions. Society teaches us showing emotions make you weak, but I believe embracing your most vulnerable emotions make you STRONG. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but there are healthy ways to deal with unresolved grief, making a life of purpose possible. My mission during speaking engagements, training, television, or radio interviews is to redefine grief and provide practical tools so the emotional shackles can be broken, making room for healing. My belief is that healing propels you to live a fulfilling life of purpose.
Tammy Reese: What would you like our readers to know about the work that you do?
Herdyne Mercier: I have suffered heartbreaks. I have journeyed down to the abyss of despair and hopelessness more than a few times in my own life. I remember the fear, anger, sudden panic attacks and feeling paralyzed in my own thoughts unable to effectively perform even the most basic functions of life.
In short, my emotional well-being was not balanced, and I had an unhealthy reaction to dealing with sorrow. Like you, I have asked more than a few times, “why me?” and in the process convinced myself that God had ceased listening to my cries. Just when I thought all hope was lost, God revealed to me that I am still His child, that He loves me, and that He would never abandon me. So, I persevered; I continued to fight.
I am glad I did. On the journey towards healing, I have come to realize that grief comes in many forms: death, betrayal, trauma, financial hardship. But my emotional trials have also birthed a clearer revelation on the steps to take to more effectively deal with these pains and disappointments.
Through these trials, I realized I need to heal in the process I developed The Grief Anchors to support my healing process. The Grief Anchors steps are Truth, Heart, Connection, Community, and Restoration.
“As we redefine grief, I want you to remember that grief is an emotion that is normal, a natural reaction to any loss.” – Herdyne Mercier
The society we live in has never supported openly grieving. The pain or the heartache that came with grief has always been annoying and drew avoidance. We tend to push away people into grieving alone.
I’ve had people tell me that they were ghosted by their friends because they had been very emotional lately. Grievers have been told that people couldn’t wait for them to come back to being their normal selves.
Tammy Reese: What inspired you to tap into assisting others with grief?
Herdyne Mercier: It’s a calling on my life going back to when I was 7 years old liking to attend funeral services with my parents. As a child, I asked a lot of questions and many had to do with Why Do People Die? I have been able to hold space for individuals who would like to express their emotions without judgment.
The inspiration comes from wanting to learn what is required for me to do to live my life to the fullness. I realized unresolved heartbreak robs you of living a full life. We all have this 1 LIFE. What are you willing to do to live it to the fullness.
Tammy Reese: When you think of women empowerment, what comes to mind?
Herdyne Mercier: Women empowerment is a woman who has decided to live and not allow the heartbreaks of her life to rob her a second time. She realizes that living life is worth doing the emotional work of healing. A woman that is empowered by her ability to tell the truth about her heartbreak, examine her heart, connect with non-judgemental souls, while anchoring in her faith allows her to reach restoration.
See women empowerment is learning the mental health tools to win in life despite the emotional hardship. She will not allow the emotional roller coaster of life to define who she is. Women empowerment is saying, I chose to heal versus using life’s heartbreak as a story of why I should not live and experience the best life God has for them.
Tammy Reese: How do you plan to celebrate Women’s History Month?
Herdyne Mercier: I plan on celebrating Women’s History Month by making time to love on my soul so the joy of life can reach the next generation of women in my family and beyond. See too many times, we as women give up the right to love on us because we are focus on the many different titles we were as a woman.
I strongly believe when a mother heals she heals the next generation, however that requires a commitment to putting yourself on your calendar right. A woman serves herself and her family at its best when she gives from the overflow of blessings, not the cup.
Tammy Reese: What else would you like our readers to know about you?
Herdyne Mercier: I love to sing, dance, and laugh out loud. Life requires you to sing like no one is listening, dance like no one is watching, and laugh out loud until your ribs hurt.
Tammy Reese: What’s next for you?
Herdyne Mercier: Masterclass called Heartbreak: Now What? …TBA
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